If you’re wondering what the headline means, it’s simple: if you don’t click with the girl you went out with, it doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with her (or with you). It could just be that the two of you didn’t share similar vibes.
The two of you might have made a lousy pair, but that doesn’t have to be the case with somebody else. Invite your friend instead to go out with her. There’s nothing wrong with that. Remember that you could be doing both your friend as well as your former date a favour. You never know, if they do hit it off, they’ll always remember you with gratitude and affection.
Has this happened to you? You met a girl somewhere—like a party--and found that you had an immediate liking for her. What’s more, you were pretty certain that she reciprocated your feelings. You might have spent most of that evening together and had a great ball. Yet, when the next day you sent her a big bunch of roses accompanied with a long romantic letter, she did not respond well. In fact she avoided you completely ever after. What went wrong? Here’s what: you went overboard. Before both of you could have had a chance to know each other beyond an exhilarating first meeting you scared her away with overbearing affection. Remember that flamboyant demonstration or display of affection can really make a female happy, PROVIDED it is AFTER you are in a relationship. So if a girl is emotionally ready to explore the possibility of finding lifetime romance with you, go slow. Allow the affection to build. Otherwise she might just think you are desperate. In fact, she might even mistake your demonstration as impulsive and something that you would have done for just any girl.
Consider the following analogy if you fear your interest is dwindling …
You are at a shirt store and have to make a choice between two shirts. While you like both, you prefer one a tad more. Soon you start developing and building reasons and excuses for not buying the shirt you don't like. Instead of building up your reasons for why you must buy the shirt you like, you start finding faults with the one you don’t.
Adapt this analogy to life and dating too. Isn’t it similar to the way we react when we lose interest, or discover that the grass is greener on the other side? Unknowingly we start thinking of reasons why we must cross over to the other side.
But remember that one really doesn’t know what lies ahead on the other side. So before you decide to cross over, look back at what you have. Mend chinks if any, add excitement and spice, do things differently, but don’t take a hasty decision that you might repent later.