Looking for a soul mate? Well, we warn you that it may cost you some time, patience and money before you hit gold. For those of you who are getting weary of dating disappointments, here’s a relatively fast and cheap 4-step method to find out if she’s worth the 12 roses, wine and chocolates you just blew up your money on.

On your first date take her out for dinner and follow these steps:

1: Is She Miss Bossy?

Deciding where to eat is often the best time to see if your woman is a down-to-earth gal or just a selfish, spoilt princess. While choosing a restaurant if she disagrees with all of your ideas and insists on going to her own spots, it might mean that she's domineering, possessive, and just an overall pain.

2: Is She Interested Enough?

In-between-course discussions, answer your doubts about how much of you she’s willing to take in. Observe not only what is said, but also how it is expressed. Does she make eye contact or offer feedback of any kind while speaking to you? Constantly glancing at her watch or answering her cell phone? Is she interested in your life or is it all about her? Can she laugh at a joke?

3: Is She Courteous?

While being served note whether or not she waits for you to get to your dish before starting to eat. Note her table manners more minutely. Does she chew with her mouth open? Do chunks of food come out while speaking? Does she assume your food is hers to pick? Aside from table manners, her actions speak volumes when it comes to the little respect she has for you.

4: She Is Ms. Thrifty?

Now for the most daunting challenge of the night: the bill. Does she or does she not offer to pay the bill? Do not confuse this with actually paying the bill (which is what gentlemen do). Just observe if she shows any interest in paying all, or part, of the amount.

Having spent all that money on your lady, at least you’ve had an opportunity to analyse her better. To meet or not to meet after your first date, entirely depends on you!

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