Now this is a golden rule, which can take you a long way in life, dating being just a small part of it. Never ever say yes when you actually mean NO. Call it a genetic setback, call it tenderness, most women cannot bear the notion of breaking someoneís heart and hence set about mending broken hearts at the risk of their own. Though momentarily gratifying, such martyrdom leads to grave disillusionments later and hence should be nipped in the bud. Say a no when you want to, saying yes will be futile as you will be repenting later.
Time, and tide, they say wait for none, but waiting for time to tide over will surely prove useful, especially if you are deciding on a serious relationship. If you are considering watching one relationship reach the altar be doubly sure that you are not jumping into something that you would much avoid. Watch your beauís habits consistently (but not like a hawk please), see if you note any changes especially those of the unpleasant sort over. Are you becoming suspicious of certain changes? He may be chivalrous and charming initially but with time the chivalry could just rust away. It is better that you voice your concerns now, when you have time in hand and can put your foot down. The bottom line here is, donít be in a hurry to commit your consent to someone, be doubly sure and then say yes, even for a date.
Girls, please don't think that the guy is going to like you even more simply because you are making things difficult for him. True, you need to take your time if it wasn't love at first sight for you like it might have been for him. Yet, saying no, or making it a point to make him feel unimportant during a date (for instance talking about other great friends you have and how you enjoy their company), is not going to keep him running after you like a puppy. Not all women, and more so men, can read between the lines. So don't think it's really cute to keep saying no or to show your lack of interest. If you like him let him know soon, or be prepared to lose him while you think he's still there waiting for you like a doormat
If some guy wants something from you and youíre in no mood to oblige, or wants you do something you just donít want to do, JUST SAY NO firmly. You donít need to give any excuse or feel guilty. Say `Noí when a guy you donít like asks for your phone number. Scream `Noí when a guy wants to have sex with you, but you donít want to. It may be anything, but if you donít want it, or donít want to do it, just say `Noí.