Not every relationship goes on forever. Break-ups are inevitable, for one reason or the other. It's rarely a mutual decision, as it's always one partner who seeks to dump the other. So inevitably one of the partners has to live with a broken heart. And that's what makes a friendship after the break-up really difficult.
If you are the girl who has ended the relationship, perhaps it may be easier for you to say: "Ok, now that we have ended it, let's try and be good friends." Easy for you to say, but what about your ex? He's still trying to recover from the break-up, and it's going to be difficult for him to adjust to the change in the relationship as easily as you do. Let's face it: being "good friends" after a romance ends is an ideal all of us want to believe in. But it rarely works out that way.
Now that's a question many of us keep asking ourselves --- specially after a break-up, or a rough time with a partner. Some of us decide that love is indeed not worth the pain, and prefer to stay away from a relationship, opting for loneliness rather than hurt. Well, there's just one thing to remember here: as with all things in life, love doesn't come easy. If you want something, you have to make an effort to get it --- and be prepared to accept things if they don't quite work out. And didn't someone say that "it's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all?"
Itís five years since he dumped you. Heís got a new girl friend, or is probably married and has kids. When you run into him, he makes it plain that he has no feelings for you any more. Yet all you do is yearn for him. Whatís more, five years and up, you still have to find a new boyfriend.
Come on; shake yourself out of the rut. Step one, get rid of all the fond memorabilia of your past relationship. Burn it if you must. But do not keep it anywhere close to your place (for heavenís sake, donít bury it in your garden!). And then stop whining, do something. Think of all the horrible things that some people go through and yet get on with their lives without moping about their loss or pain. So get a make over done, new wardrobe, new hair cut, etc if you need to, and start living and DATING all over again. And remember: there should be no looking back.