Dressed to kill, and in an upbeat mood, you step out of the house elated to be with your date. You had been looking forward to this evening with him. But the cheer and buoyancy of the evening soon turns to heavy yokes for the two of you. No, it is not what either of you said, but rather what you thought.

Yes girls, our minds play devastating little tricks on us when they get into an overdrive trying to analyze small and inconsequential actions. We judge every move, action and end up reading far in-between the lines, driving ourselves absolutely crazy!

STOP! Don’t try to be the self-proclaimed psychic or mind reader. Take each moment as it comes, enjoy its beauty. Here are a few tips on how to wait and watch:

• For starters stop taking things personally and start communicating. Once this channel is open chances of miscommunication are almost reduced to null.

• Stop assuming that everything your friend says or does is a personal slight on you. Quite on the contrary he may be simply recounting his own situations. Presumption is a mother of all mess-ups, so junk her.

• Once you stop mind reading, you naturally stop interpreting actions and start communicating. Asking, sharing, setting boundaries and enjoying evolvement are a natural outcome of such evolved minds and relations.

• Communication creates intimacy which in turn leads to a bloom in the relationship. Start communicating and be rest assured of an improved and fruitful relationship, no matter where it culminates.

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